We had a pretty dreadful time with our middle son on the weekend. But it wasn't an isolated event. He's never been an easy child, but lately we've had some nasty mood swings and outbursts of anger. He's become very picky about our words (i.e. if we aren't 100% accurate, or use metaphors). And a few other things. But Sunday he was looking slightly OCD on one particular issue and we began to become concerned.
As I often do when I'm puzzled, I did a quick Google search, typing "9 year old boy mood swings" and found this article. It seems to describe our son fairly well on many counts. I've heard of Terrible Twos, and even the word "tween". But really, is it true that this is a difficult age? If you've been there, please let me know!
It is tricky in our job, with lots of transition it isn't easy to pick out the "stages" in the midst of life's upheavals. So at this age our older son had different "issues" and we must have missed the "tween" age as a distinct stage. At this point, though, our lives are relatively stable and this behaviour just seems unreasonably extreme. But then, this boy has tended to "unreasonably extreme" most of his life (but not in the Manic-Depressive way). The oddest thing to us is that his teachers don't know a thing about it! He keeps all the ugly bits for us at home.
To be honest, I'm not sure that teenage challenges are going to take us much by surprise, we've been dealing with those sorts of issues for a few years now, even though we're still a few months short of having an official teenager.
But, please tell me, are 9 y.o.s really prone to mood swings and angry outbursts? Or are we going crazy?