tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-324860522351083573.post1878396917257765005..comments2024-03-26T15:29:31.939+09:00Comments on on the edge of ordinary: Eye contactWendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17882558757262419263noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-324860522351083573.post-74428500081715497602013-01-10T22:00:25.187+09:002013-01-10T22:00:25.187+09:00Thanks Wendy for posting this! I had just this wee...Thanks Wendy for posting this! I had just this week come to the concious realization that I wasn't making eye contact with certain people and wondered if it had to do with how I felt about the person. Now I think that I've been guilty all along since my return in the autumn and that is why I've gotten some odd reactions in public situations!Georgiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10127821043084176954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-324860522351083573.post-65059494931718963622013-01-10T09:35:41.743+09:002013-01-10T09:35:41.743+09:00Evangeline,
One of Ross Campbell's points is t...Evangeline,<br />One of Ross Campbell's points is that rarely does a parent not love their kids, but the problem really lies in the the communication of that love. I wonder if Japanese kids actually feel loved when their parents spend lots of time making their packed kindy lunches?<br /><br />Perhaps you're right Ken. But again the author's contention is that kids need to know that they're loved, otherwise they tend to behave badly, especially as teenagers. Do Japanese kids know that they're loved?Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17882558757262419263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-324860522351083573.post-44321343997036886802013-01-10T07:22:34.950+09:002013-01-10T07:22:34.950+09:00That parental eye contact can be manipulative, as ...That parental eye contact can be manipulative, as parodied in the Kath and Kim "look at moy" sketches.<br /><br />I was party to a discussion among a diverse group about living in different cultures. Many of the Asians were wary of the Australian habit of small everyday thank yous. They thought it was unnecessary. It seems that in different cultures different things are taken as established. Perhaps loving parents is something that it taken for granted as an established fact that doesn't have to be demonstrated.<br />Ken Rolphnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-324860522351083573.post-73700299131828900082013-01-09T18:55:19.117+09:002013-01-09T18:55:19.117+09:00That was my comment, above. It is just my impressi...That was my comment, above. It is just my impression, so I may be wrong. I'd like to hear what Japanese parents think. I do remember attending a parents' meeting at shogakko where some expert person was encouraging to parents to foster communication with their children by making good eye contact. Evangelinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-324860522351083573.post-66163117936378558072013-01-09T18:50:14.558+09:002013-01-09T18:50:14.558+09:00Japanese spell love T-I-M-E. If it took a long tim...Japanese spell love T-I-M-E. If it took a long time to make their child's obento or yochien bags, you know the parent really loved them. "時間がかかりました” is more of a boast than complaint, I think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com